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Divorce & Concluding thoughts

            It’s amazing how time moves. Every week, I learned so many new things about marriages and families. Each week I was humbled. I am thoroughly grateful for my professor, Brother Williams, for putting in the effort to share his knowledge and experience with us as a class. For this last week, we did not have much time to discuss our last subject, divorce. It’s a heavy subject for many who have been through it in their lives. I myself could not understand how much a divorce can really affect someone, but I do have friends who have been through it themselves. Each one has had a different experience. I’ve listened to some stories about how a divorce has negatively impacted the lives of some of my friends. Other times, I have heard how it has been a blessing. While in class, what stood out to me the most was how hard it is for some parents to remarry. Not only that, but having the children accept the new adult into their life is also a hard task. While listening, I learned one
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Being a Parent

 I found this week’s lessons to be very eye opening. As I read the articles for the discussions, I was reminded of my days when I was a young child. My parents always wanted the best for me growing up, but I never really listened to them. There was a point in my life where my father spoke to me personally and told me, “You won’t understand now, but as you get older you will see why we did the things we did.” When I was 18 years old, I left home to serve a religious mission in the state of Kansas. It was then that I began to understand what my father had told me years before. I’m sure that many of us go through the same thoughts. We do not understand why our parents are do things the way they do and we don’t understand when they tell us that is it for our own benefit. In our class discussion this week, I learned three purposes of parenting that stood out to me. To be a teacher – As an adult, the experience that parents gain through living life is a valuable resource. Be a best f
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The Role of a Father

How important is the role of a father? I would like to invite you to think and ponder this question, for a few moments before reading on. When we think about the structure of a family, two important figures are the mother and the father. Of course, their roles vary within each culture, but needlessly to say, they are a central figure to the growth of their kids. Although, we tend to focus on the role of the mother more than the father. The purpose of this blog today is to focus on the father, and his role. Sanja Lagudu, BPharm, MBA, wrote an article about the qualities a father, which was medically reviewed by Dr. Sadhvi Mythili, MD. There were 5 qualities that I’d like to center my focus on, each one resonates with me because these are qualities I saw in my own father. Affection – I’m sure that many of us rarely see our father’s show true affection like our mother would. At times hugs and kisses are not common. Maybe even at times we rarely see a father cry during our childhood. Even
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The 5 Secrets of effective Communication

 Super awesome week! I feel that this week, I learned a lot about communication in a relationship, or just in general. Before this week, I thought that I was a good communicator, but it turns out that I still have much more to learn. I am sure many of us have been in a situation where communicating was crucial. Think of that day. What was happening? How did it go? Were you able to convey your feelings? Did the situation escalate? This week, I learned some things that take effort to learn, but could be beneficial if used correctly and appropriately. The problem with communicating with another person is that the other person has to receive the message, decipher it, and then relay it back towards the whoever is speaking to them. This can be very hard. As a guy, it has always been hard to communicate effectively, especially with women sometimes. In class we learned that there are 3 different types of communication, all which total to 100%. 1.      Words – 14% 2.      Tone – 35% 3
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Family Stressors: The ABC-X Model

       The focus of this week was discussing family stressors. I thought this one to be super interesting as it reminded me of my own family and how we dealt with certain situations.     While in class, we discussed three different outcomes that families face after trials: they come out weaker, normal, or stronger after the stressor. We were introduced to a study done by Hill (1949) where he studied families and came up with the ABC- X model. A = Actual Stressor B = Parent’s resources/strengths C = Cognitions (Thought process) X = Experience      When one thinks about it deeply, at times our own families have experienced a major stressor in life and could apply this model directly to it. In my own experience, I can confidently say that there have been many occasions where my family was in such a situation.      Growing up, my family was never the richest. We live a modest life now, but before in order to get to where we were my parents had to work through many challenges. When I was ar
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Marriage: Communication & Infidelity

It was very interesting to read the assignments this week. I am not married, so it was hard to be able to think about it in my own life, but it was very useful to learn!             This week we talked about the next steps after marriage. Sadly, we only had one day to discuss a very lard topic, but I will include the more important information that stuck out to me. While in class, one topic that stuck out to me was how important communication is in a relationship after marriage. In one of my previous blogs, I spoke about the differences between men and women and their mannerisms and ways of thinking.             Regarding a couples intimacy, it was interesting to know that there is a “process” for women, It was also interesting to learn that for men, it was quite the opposite! To express that they feel safe, warm, and close, men initiate physical intimacy with their wife. On the other hand, women need to feel safe, warm, and close in order to do the same. In my opinion, as a man, I
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Transition into Marriage: The Wedding Plan

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  Back here for some more! Currently, my thoughts on my class are helping me grow as an individual. I have learned a great amount of knowledge while reading the assignments. As of right now my major is psychology because I developed a strong interest in helping others and learning more about the mind and behavior. As a result of taking this class, it seems that my mind is taking me to switching my major form psychology to marriage and family studies! This week, I was enlightened about the transition into marriage. For one, I am not married nor engaged, so I am glad that I was able to get some tips. I hope that for those of you reading, it can have the same effect. This week I learned that it “matters how one proposes; it can either be meaningful or a show”, so in other words I learned that proposing at a stadium full of thousands of people might not be the best idea. I’m sure that there are many of us out there that have seen how in movies the guy proposed in some flashy way maki
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